Photo Credit: Jennie Anne Benigas
 

 

JUDY'S JOURNAL

 

October 2024

As my indoor work piles up, I carry my load of guilt outdoors and try to console myself with bird song and smells of dirt and flowers.

 

 

 


The Reluctant Gardener


Dear Reader,

Until circumstances changed, I was an avid admirer of gardens. And why not? I cannot count the fences I have peered over, or how many times I slowed the car to get a better look or how many landscape paintings have stopped me in my tracks in art museums and galleries. Gardens offer a special display of someone’s talents, skills and, as I have learned in the past few years, hard and time-consuming work.

It is not those gardens honed by landscape crews, whose trucks are loaded with mowers, clippers, and bags of mulch that attract me. Yes, I am impressed by the expert plantings and the flowering trees orchestrated to dazzle throughout the growing season. Their commanding beds are filled with unimaginably expensive impatiens, creating a blanket of color fitfully designed to hold admiring gazes.

It is the wilder gardens that I appreciate, the ones where cosmos goes crazy next to a stand of dahlias, while a clump of blue-eyed grass startles because it has just opened for the morning. And a path etched into a section invites a stroll to nowhere in particular. You might be tempted to pull a weed or two. Please, help yourself. This is the garden that my husband, John Gaumond, began in 1973 – fifty-one summers ago, when we moved into a tiny cottage situated on a small pie-wedge piece of land. As he cleaned up the dead tree branches and neglected flower beds, he uncovered a meandering stone wall. He had learned about dry stone walls from the Italian men in his boyhood neighborhood and put those muscle memories to work. After school and on weekends, he would rebuild and create new stone walls and patios. More than one visitor has called it a magic garden. John never ceased to amaze us all with his sense of design, as he planted and pruned what has turned out to be all gardens and no lawn, except for a small strip near the street.

It should not be surprising that this master gardener would require help. His son, Pete, was (and still is) at the ready whenever needed. But, in the past few years, I, an avowed indoor girl, have ventured into the garden to help. Reluctantly is the adverb of choice. I am covered head to toe and protected with bug spray before I step out. I concocted the strangest, but most effective gardening outfit (it’s always about clothes, isn’t it?) comprised of old pajama bottoms tucked into high socks, sturdy sneakers, long sleeve tee shirt covered by old Oxford shirts with cut-off sleeves, gloves, and a babushka topped with a big straw hat. I am still waiting for the Best Dressed Gardener Award or at least a nomination.

I have seen worms as big as snakes, snake skins followed by a meet-up with its owner, frogs, all manner of bugs, butterflies, chipmunks, a hedgehog that dug up 95 percent of the dahlias four times, and rabbits, rabbits, rabbits (you know what they do). One day, from our window, we watched the bobcat traverse the stone wall, and from her sleek, well-fed look, I am glad that I haven’t encountered her while dumping a load of weeds.

As my indoor work piles up, I carry my load of guilt outdoors and try to console myself with bird song and smells of dirt and flowers. I try unsuccessfully to appreciate the meditative qualities of gardening. I marvel at how many times the same section of ground needs weeding. Spreading 8 and ½ yards of mulch nearly killed me. Now, I understand the sense of relief (or is it exhaustion?) when the garden has been put down for the winter. But by March, a strange feeling overtakes me as I start remembering what is about to happen in the coming weeks – our Newport plum tree covered in buds, crocuses making their way through the cold clumps of dirt, the Lenten plant greening up. Perhaps this heavy dose of reluctance will continue to shift into heady anticipation.